Husbands aren't lazy, they have idiosyncrasies.
July 8th 2010 12:29
So the other day one of my well-intentioned friends (for lack of a better description that won’t make them cross me off their Christmas list) sent me an article about marriage complaints and how to handle them.
Why not? Even Dr. Phil was a student at some point. So, I decided to read the article. Now, right off, I have to tell you the author – who shall remain nameless – lost me when she stated, in the first sentence, that “During the first couple of years of marriage, you and your spouse will begin to get a feel for the idiosyncrasies you both possess.”`
Now, dictionary.com defines idiosyncrasies as “characteristics, habits, mannerisms, or the like, that are peculiar to an individual.” So then I looked up “peculiar” since that word, like idiosyncrasies, seemed a bit out of place to me.
It said “strange; queer; odd; uncommon; unusual”. Now, although urinating on the floor when you have a hole as big as your bum for target practice doesn’t seem all that “uncommon” when it comes to men, the explanation does clarify a number of other things I have never quite understood about the male species.
I have always found it “odd” that a man can consistently throw his dirty clothes right beside the basket and not in it. It is also quite “unusual” the way they cannot see a stack of dirty dishes teetering like an elephant on a circus ball.
But hey, this article explained all of that to me. They just have idiosyncrasies. It’s not that they don’t care or don’t listen. They apparently are born with these “strange characteristics” that make it virtually impossible for them to do otherwise.
Poor things, and here we are nagging them, complaining that they never listen, and all this time it’s just their eccentricities.
She goes on to talk about how she compares her husband’s idiosyncrasies to her dogs barking all the time and says although she hates the dogs barking, she still loves the dogs. She also says that when your partner complains about let’s say, your cooking, it’s important to honour the complaint with respect.
So what I got from that was instead of saying, “Eat it or sleep on the couch jerk” you should say, “Eat it or sleep on the couch please, Mr. Jerk.”
Now that is some home-grown, rock-solid advice from someone who obviously has her finger firmly on the marriage pulse. I will post the article for all of those who wish to read it as soon as the author of that article wins a Nobel Prize for Literature
image credit: Really Long Link
Why not? Even Dr. Phil was a student at some point. So, I decided to read the article. Now, right off, I have to tell you the author – who shall remain nameless – lost me when she stated, in the first sentence, that “During the first couple of years of marriage, you and your spouse will begin to get a feel for the idiosyncrasies you both possess.”`
Now, dictionary.com defines idiosyncrasies as “characteristics, habits, mannerisms, or the like, that are peculiar to an individual.” So then I looked up “peculiar” since that word, like idiosyncrasies, seemed a bit out of place to me.
It said “strange; queer; odd; uncommon; unusual”. Now, although urinating on the floor when you have a hole as big as your bum for target practice doesn’t seem all that “uncommon” when it comes to men, the explanation does clarify a number of other things I have never quite understood about the male species.
I have always found it “odd” that a man can consistently throw his dirty clothes right beside the basket and not in it. It is also quite “unusual” the way they cannot see a stack of dirty dishes teetering like an elephant on a circus ball.
But hey, this article explained all of that to me. They just have idiosyncrasies. It’s not that they don’t care or don’t listen. They apparently are born with these “strange characteristics” that make it virtually impossible for them to do otherwise.
Poor things, and here we are nagging them, complaining that they never listen, and all this time it’s just their eccentricities.
She goes on to talk about how she compares her husband’s idiosyncrasies to her dogs barking all the time and says although she hates the dogs barking, she still loves the dogs. She also says that when your partner complains about let’s say, your cooking, it’s important to honour the complaint with respect.
So what I got from that was instead of saying, “Eat it or sleep on the couch jerk” you should say, “Eat it or sleep on the couch please, Mr. Jerk.”
Now that is some home-grown, rock-solid advice from someone who obviously has her finger firmly on the marriage pulse. I will post the article for all of those who wish to read it as soon as the author of that article wins a Nobel Prize for Literature
image credit: Really Long Link
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